What I Did on Sabbatical – Part One

I playfully named my three-month sabbatical “Root, Speak, Stretch” to define the way I had planned my time: visits back to my roots, speaking Hebrew in Israel, and stretching my comfort zone (and body) in yoga teacher training.
Now at the end of my first month, I have learned more about roots than I ever expected.
I begin by an admission that when I practice mindful awareness, coincidences start feeling like intentional signs. As soon as I embarked on a discovery of my roots, I took note of trees everywhere. Trees in Portland, Maine were dressed up for the holidays by artist Pandora LaCasse; trees throughout Massachusetts were dressed up after an ice storm by God .

Trees in botanic gardens in Huntsville, Alabama, West Palm Beach and Sarasota, Florida all seemed to lead me on my path. Banyan trees, the pride of Florida, signified the metaphor I had been seeking:

Banyan tree

Roots typically remain unseen, growing solidly just under the surface. They provide nourishment, strength, and the source of everything that grows toward the light. New branches and shoots, fragile leaves, blossoms, and fruit demand attention: pruning, picking, trimming, tending. How easy it is to forget that roots also need tending.
And so I am grateful for this sabbatical pause in my full and busy life that has allowed me the calm space to learn something new. Places that represent my beginnings, people who “knew me when” – all deserve attention, all have deep truths to offer.
The idea of an obligation to nurture roots occurred to me first in the context of someone else’s place of beginnings. I spent an afternoon in Boynton Beach with Rabbi Scheff’s parents, Stan and Hannah. Almost a year ago, Hannah‘s parents, Israel and Sonia Neiman, best known as Zaidy Cha and Baba, moved into Stan and Hannah’s home. Tucked into a corner of the couch where I could hold Baba’s hand and listen to Zaidy Cha’s stories, I enjoyed a wonderful afternoon of Scheff hospitality.

What I found of significance about that afternoon is something that they all take for granted. The children of these precious elders come to spend the day, son, son-in-law, cousin and their partners, every single Sunday. I am certain that the shmoozing every Sunday includes weather updates, sports controversies and discussions of the waiting times for certain restaurants. The content of the conversations is not what matters. What matters is the very gathering itself. Zaidy and Baba are blessed by a family that acknowledges and nurtures its roots. This awareness of the value of roots came home to me in that moment and has shaped my understanding of the entire month.
I felt fully the power of my origins when I stood on the rocks of Two Lights in Cape Elizabeth, Maine. I respected the strength of memory when Jon and I drove by my childhood home, junior high and high school, and when we drove into the silent, snow-covered Jewish cemetery. At the Maine Jewish Museum (yes, there is such a place and no, it is not as small as a closet!) I looked at pictures of the old Jewish Community Center, my childhood synagogue, and Old Orchard Beach. I had discovered the roots of my roots. These kinds of roots require tending.

Sharing time with Cathy, my best friend in Maine, who has known me longer than anyone else except for my brother and cousins, reminded me of who I was as an eighteen year old. Cathy called my parents Momma and Poppa Mack. She and I lived together after college, back when I had never before written a check to pay rent. Cathy has been there for me through every major transition in my life, applauding my decision to attend Rabbinical School even though it was not in the realm of anything either of us could have dreamed of back in the summer of 1978! These kinds of roots require tending.
I traveled to Alabama and Florida to spend time with my maternal cousins. Pam, Ilene, Beth, and Wendy are my closest family members, and we share what no one else does: stories about our parents and grandparents, all gone now.

We laughed about Grandma Blanche’s afternoon tea parties and Grandpa Lou’s adventures collecting shells on Siesta Key, my Uncle Mel’s terrible jokes and my mom’s rules for making grocery lists. My cousin Pam calls me Paula Ellen, the name my grandparents called me. She is the only person who calls me that today. These kinds of roots require tending.
In between my travels, I spent time with my in-laws, Jonathan’s siblings, and friends from my Caldwell synagogue. These people too represent roots. One Shabbat in Caldwell, at Congregation Agudath Israel, Cantor Joel Caplan asked me to lead musaph. I felt the power of leading prayer before the person who taught me to lead it, in the place where I grew as a Jewish adult. These kinds of roots require tending.
As I have been sharing these experiences by phone with my brother Eric, I know that he understands completely what I am experiencing. My insights are not surprising to him. After all, he has known me longer than anyone else alive today. He knows me from before I knew myself.

Me as child

And these are the kinds of roots that truly require tending.
Who are you calling today? To whom are you sending a handwritten letter? Are you making a reservation for that flight today? We all have roots that require tending.
We are more than where we came from. But we are not all that we hope to be if we do not acknowledge, remember, and honor from where we came.
With love and friendship, and on to Month Two,
Rabbi Paula Mack Drill

12 responses to “What I Did on Sabbatical – Part One”

  1. Helen Barnett says :

    You go, girl!!!!!!!!!!

  2. Mark Brownstein says :

    The roots are always strongest surrounded by love and acceptance. Enjoy the moments! Thanks for sharing with us pictures and stories of your journey.

  3. Ruth Hess says :

    Karl and I loved every brilliant insight as to who you are! I wish you’d put your Sabbatical writings into a book not only for those of us at OJC but also for your children and future grandchildren.
    Enjoy months two and three!

  4. Lydia Jay Katz says :

    Thank you for almost forcing me to stop and think of my roots. These are comforting memories I will take with me as I climb into bed tonight. I feel my grandma’s arms around me. Thank you for sharing. We miss you.

  5. Lloyd Fishman says :

    To go back to one’s roots and see oneself in that time is a gift. We all took root somewhere and we honor our lives by taking the time to look back where we once were while at the same time, moving forward. We are products of that time long past.

  6. Rhonda Plawner says :

    What an exceptional adventure you have planned for your well-deserved sabbatical. If we all stop and smell the roses, we would realize that there is more to life than our daily routines. You have certainly shown us that. Enjoy the coming months. Looking forward to your next blog.

  7. Judy says :

    A joy to read-especially the parts about trees. We are currently watching the series “Treehouse Masters” and its focus on trees, roots, branches and family delight in trees is wonderful. I hope you continue to thrive on your 3-month excursion into past, present and maybe future-but do remember to come back to us!

    Much love,

    Judy (Marty too)

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    From: Two Rabbis, One Voice, Three Opinions [mailto:comment-reply@wordpress.com] Sent: Monday, January 15, 2018 5:33 PM To: gyzortle@optonline.net Subject: [New post] What I Did on Sabbatical – Part One

    Rabbi Paula Mack Drill posted: “I playfully named my three-month sabbatical “Root, Speak, Stretch” to define the way I had planned my time: visits back to my roots, speaking Hebrew in Israel, and stretching my comfort zone (and body) in yoga teacher training. Now at the end of my first “

    • sheila says :

      I’ve been missing you, so I am delighted that you’re sharing your wisdom with us via email. Reliving your past through family memories and appreciating the stories that give insight to the person you’ve become, is a gift you deservedly gave yourself. I’m so happy for you ! Thank you also for the wonderful photographs. Much love, Sheila

  8. Dorothy Ehrlich says :

    I so enjoyed reading your story. With age I have come to nurture those memories and have had the good fortune of sharing the memories with my brother and cousins. What gives me great pleasure is sharing the “olden days” with my children and grandchildren.

  9. Carol says :

    What a beautiful post-thank you for being such a true, honest & meaningful writer. I teared up as I read it to David. Reading about Hannah’s parents coming to live with them had me thinking about the blessings of heart & the loving spirit this family possesses. Although it made me wistful that I could do the same, but my parents health issues are too serious. Can’t wait to read about your next part of you journey. Love, Carol

  10. Annette says :

    thank you so much for your meaningful sharing. thanks too for the pictures. the only thing I knew about Banyan trees was from Tom Chapin’s song. I love the photo. continue to enjoy your most meaningful sabbatical which is more than a vacation. You are missed.
    Hugs,,Annette D.

  11. Rosanne Spadaro says :

    Paula Ellen, HOW CUTE! I relate to this reference to your cousin who is the only one who calls you that. I have a sister named Pamela. She now calls herself Pamela, but we grew up as Pam and Rosey. So that’s what we call each other. She introduces herself as Pamela because that’s what she prefers everyone call her, except for me. I get to call her Pam.

    Beautiful writing my friend for all seasons xo Rosanne

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